Here’s to your next play date being your very own play date…
Online dating has helped about 10 million couples find each other, according to data from a 2010 Stanford University survey. It can be fast, easy and if you let it, fun. It doesn’t mean you have to end up with any of these guys, but you are long overdue for a little grown-up time, single mom. It’s been while since you’ve caught the wondering eye of someone other than your five-year-old. Online dating is a great way for a single mom to begin looking, because you set the pace and make the decisions. Here are a few tips to consider when getting started:
Go On Multiple Dates
Remember what happened when you decided on monogamy in the last relationship? You gave a good portion of your life to one person, perhaps too quickly. Take this opportunity to date more than one person. With each date, you allow yourself to explore what you like and don’t like about the opposite sex, as you, likewise, learn more about yourself.
You don’t have to get sexually intimate with any of the men. It’s a misconception that sex, or any form thereof, is expected on an adult date. A good guy will wait for you. That’s how some of the best relationships begin. Some men even get turned off by women who give it up on the first date… What?! Really.
There will always be liars, and you’ll run into some “interesting” folks online. This is most likely where your fear about online dating comes into play; but if you educate yourself on common fabrications and how to spot them, you won’t waste your time. Height, weight and age are all common lies that will come out soon enough. Look for guys that don’t list their income because if they do, it’s sure to be false information or bragging, neither of which you want.
Be cautious with the information you post to the dating website, as well as the information you give the guys you’re dating. Being a single parent, it’s more important than ever to protect yourself from identity thieves and hacks. Being visible online requires constant monitoring, which you can get through companies like LifeLock.
Wait on the Introductions
If you’ve only been on a few dates, skip the introductions. Your child doesn’t want to meet every man you go out with. When the time comes that you meet someone truly special who you think will stick around for more than a few months, then introduce your kids. Maybe a casual ice cream party at your home or a game of cornhole in the backyard.
You don’t have time to mess around with lying about your age or posting an old picture. If you’re serious about dating and finding the right guy to spend some time with, you want him to like you for you and not some false image of a distant you. Also, check the “yes” box on the “Do you have kids?” section. Say a small thing about how happy you are to have her and then move on. Don’t make it about kids. This is about you.
Not Your Type?
Venture out of your comfort zone when looking at online profiles. Usually attracted to a man who plays music in a band? Just give the Ultimate Frisbee player a try this time. Guys often get pigeonholed by their interests, but not all Frisbee players/musicians are the same. Adventure awaits in dating. Take it by the horns and try new guys.