Online dating really isn’t all that different from real life dating. There are unspoken rules and your behavior can have an effect on people’s lives. When it comes to online dating, you may think you can throw all etiquette out of the window. But just because someone is behind a computer does not give anyone license to treat this like a game. Here are some online dating etiquette tips everyone should follow.
Respond to messages within 24 hours
If you received a message from someone who seems interesting, make sure to respond within 24 hours. Doing so keeps the line of communication open while it’s still fresh in their mind. Waiting any longer could signal that you’re not interested. If you want to take etiquette to the next level, respond to all messages, even those you are not interested in. Be upfront by sending a simple “thanks but…” note. It takes little time and allows that person to move on instead of holding on to hope that you could be interested.
Give the other person time to respond
With the instant gratification we get from online communication, we know it can be hard to wait for a response. Remind yourself that people have lives and things can get busy with work, hobbies, and just life. Try to hold off on following up immediately after sending a note. Sending a second message shortly after the first one can make you seem needy and desperate. It could also decrease your chances of getting a reply.
Don’t send messages to any and everyone just for the sake of. Reach out to those who have really piqued your interest. When you start communicating when them you’ll sound more authenticate and genuine versus having it feeling forced.
Let the other person talk
Yes, your potential date wants to hear all about you and who you are. But they also want time to tell their story. Don’t dominate messages or conversations with information solely all about you. Your date wants a chance to showcase who they are too. And you should make time to listen in order to assess the match.
Be honest and be yourself
Although you always want to show yourself in good light, don’t embellish too much. Don’t lie about your occupation, don’t cut your age by a decade and don’t use a photo that was taken 5 years ago. The truth will eventually come out. Be who you are and be proud of it!
Etiquette basically boils down to one thing, treat everyone online how you would like to be treated. Be respectful, truthful, and don’t say anything you wouldn’t say to their face.