Conversation Starters: How to Use’s Icebreakers

Make the first move—with a little help…

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Initiating conversation is the most critical part of building a relationship with someone you meet online. And let’s face it — sometimes that can be daunting. There’s none of that eye contact from across the bar or body language to reassure you that he’s interested. realizes that reaching out to other singles online becomes instantly easier with a few go-to icebreakers. Our Icebreaker feature helps alleviate the pressure and create a more relaxed online dating experience.

With the Icebreakers feature you can select a pre-written message, a group of singles you are interested in and hit send. The message will arrive in your potential dates’ inbox and voilà, the ice has been broken!

There are two different ways to access the Icebreaker feature on Review your options below and start some conversations.

Option 1: On Browse

Locate the “Break The Ice” feature in the upper right-hand corner of your Browse page and click “Ask Men” or “Ask Women.”

ASK MEN step 1

Once you click the “Ask” button the Icebreaker module will display inside your Browse window. Click “change question” to select your favorite Icebreaker.

Next, you can use the “Select All” function to send your Icebreaker to the recently active men pictured in the module OR click “Unselect All” and check the boxes next to the men you would like to receive your Icebreaker individually.

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ASK MEN step 2

Option 2: On His Profile

Did you find a match? View his profile and locate the “Send Him A Message” box in the upper right hand corner. Next click on “Ideas” and pick your favorite from the list!

Ice Breaker Internal 1

If you’re a foodie, ask him his favorite flavor of ice cream or if he likes cooking or eating more. His response will help you build a connection off your mutual interest right away.

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How Will the Icebreakers Look?

When you receive Icebreakers, we’ll identify them in your inbox. Just look for “ICEBREAKER QUESTION” above the message and you’ll know he had a little help. The Icebreakers you send will also be marked in your matches inbox as well.

Ice Breaker Identifed Inbox

Icebreakers are more useful (and less corny) than they sound. They have just the right amount of creativity and sincerity to get the conversational ball rolling.

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