Many questions can come up when you start online dating, it can be a bit overwhelming sometimes. The number of messages in your inbox, not knowing who to respond to, and getting rejected are a few concerns. It can be hard to stay sane while online dating. If you’ve been struggling with your online dating life, here are 4 tips to make it more manageable.
Have an idea of what you want
Before you start looking for someone you should have an idea of what you’re looking for. Do you want a relationship? Are you looking for something more casual? Knowing what you’re looking for will help filter out people, so you can focus on getting what you want. At the same time, don’t have unrealistic expectations in your mind of how this person will be. Keep an open mind and don’t shape every interaction to fit this perfect story in your head.
It’s not personal
Rejection is never an easy pill to swallow but make sure you keep things in perspective. If someone didn’t respond to your note or just ended up falling off the planet after a few messages don’t blame yourself. There is no way for you to know what is going on in that person’s life that caused them to act this way. Simply keep moving forward and know it’s part of the online dating process.
Your time is valuable
You may go crazy trying to respond to each and every message. Thoughtful messages, such as someone mentioning something that showed they took the time to read the detail in your profile, deserve a response. Even if you don’t feel the person is a fit, if they took the time to read your profile, be polite and send a quick note back. Also, you don’t have to wait for people to come to you. Be bold and make the first move!
Let nature take its course
When you finally connect with someone it can be hard not to get overly excited. Remember, sometimes what you have in your mind is different from what the other person is thinking. Don’t force something to accelerate or try to mold it into something it’s not ready to be. Stop fixating on the final outcome. And while you’re waiting for everything fall into place, just keep enjoying your amazing life.