A lot of men who are unsuccessful with online dating instantly attribute this lack of success to the looks that they are born with. These men make the assumption that they aren’t attractive enough, and therefore, women are ignoring their emails.
But the truth of the matter is, the looks you are born with only play a large role if you don’t put yourself in position to attract women in other ways. In actuality, there are a whole variety of ways that a man can attract a woman online that have absolutely nothing to do with the looks he is born with.
This is because woman are naturally wired to respond to more than just a man’s visual appearances. When it comes to attraction, the internal qualities of a man are much more important.
These qualities include, but are not limited to, humor, confidence, social value, the ability to protect, etc. Think about how many times “average” looking men are seen walking arm and arm with beautiful women in society. It is not because they are all rich. It is because looks are just one of many ways a man can spark an attraction, and these men have managed to tap into some of these qualities that spark attraction whether they were conscious of it or not.
So how does this relate to an online dating photo gallery? Let’s use a picture that I have in my current profile as an example. One of my pictures shows me holding a dog, with my sister on the right side of me holding her baby, and my grandmother on the other side. What this picture represents is far more than just a family photo.
I am indirectly communicating that I have protector qualities by surrounding myself with a dog and family members. A dog also communicates that I have a sense of responsibility. In addition, the people in this photo are also laughing, so I am demonstrating that I am humorous and people enjoy being around me. Finally, I am showing that I have the potential to be a family man and am creating a visual of what it would be like to become a part of this family.
All of these qualities are very attractive to women, and I am tapping into all of them in just one picture. Suppose I posted eight more pictures, that all tapped into other qualities women are attracted to? If I posted a picture hiking up a mountain, I am demonstrating alpha male qualities, showing that I am active, and also demonstrating that I am open-minded and adventurous. Life with me will be exciting.
I could go on for pages about all the different types of pictures that can help spark an attraction. The more you tap into personality traits and internal qualities women are attracted to, the more success you will have. On the other hand, if you limit your photo gallery to three profile pictures standing by yourself posing, looks will be the only thing women have to judge you with.
So get creative and make sure you work towards building the perfect photo gallery. Just remember, none of this will matter if you don’t write your profile to perfection and learn how to craft excellent emails. All the parts add up to the sum of the whole.
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