Enter dating coach Lisa Copeland. She’s identified three common mistakes women over 50 consistently make that end up totally frustrating them in their search for Mr. Right. It’s time to change that. Read her advice below to find out what you can do to successfully find a great guy online.
Mistake #1: Not Displaying Your Unique You!
Having success finding quality men to date online starts with posting a great profile and picture that makes you stand out from everyone else online. Most women usually list their qualities in their profile as a way of getting a man’s attention. An example is…
I am a kind-hearted, professional woman who likes to travel, be around water, shop, and go to movies.
Although a sentence like this gives a lot of information about you…it reads like a dating resume. It’s dry and does nothing to make you stand out. And there’s nothing in it that would get a man excited about meeting you. Here are two examples of sentences I’ve seen when it comes to describing the men women want to meet.
I’m seeking a man who is truly interested in working on a relationship and willing to give at least 50% to a relationship.
I would like someone who is easy to talk to, comfortable in their own skin, and is willing to enjoy whatever life has to offer.
The first sentence is heavy and a man reads it as this woman is still bitter from a past relationship where a man didn’t give much.
The second sentence is very general and subjective. What comfortable in your own skin means to you could be totally different than what it means to a man. It’s a broad sentence that again won’t engage a man to contact you.
Instead, write the list of qualities you want in a man, then create a story using a couple of those qualities along with one or two of the activities you love to do. This type of profile will engage a man, helping him identify that he’s the one you are looking for.
Dating feels like a chore when you don’t know how to play and flirt with men either online or in the real world. I used to recommend not writing men first because most women would write something like this…
I like your profile. It sounds like we have so much in common. I hope you’ll write me back.
BORING! BORING! STILL BORING!
Go ahead and write a man but be playful. As an example — a man is wearing a suit in his picture. Write him and say something like…
I love when a man wears a suit. He looks really sexy.
It’s flirty, fun and engaging and a man feels good hearing this. A secret about men: they love compliments just like you do and this is the type of flirting that allows you to choose the men you want to go out with, versus always being chosen by men you don’t want.
Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Relate To Mature, Alpha Men
I’ve found most women want an alpha man in their life. Why? Because he makes her feel safe and protected and that comes directly from the days of the cavemen and the cave women, where a man was responsible for keeping his family safe or they’d die.
Life has changed since then and so have women who are capable of doing this for themselves. And this has created a HUGE problem for men.
Why? Men don’t feel needed by women our age anymore. And when a man doesn’t feel needed, guess who he turns to? That’s right — younger women who can make an Alpha Man feel his strongest and best because he’s needed.
If you really get who men are and you know how to talk with them so they hear you, well, they’ll literally jump through hoops and climb over mountains to be there for you. And that feels pretty good!