#1. Give Up Your Self-Defeating Attitude.
I want you to know that criticizing yourself every single day – dozens of times a day – takes a toll on your psyche. You start believing the story you are telling yourself about how flawed you are, instead of how truly awesome you are as a woman over 50.
Try shifting this way of thinking by looking in your bathroom mirror every morning while telling yourself everything you either love about you or are grateful for about you in your life.
#2. Give Up Your Limiting Dating Beliefs About Available Men.
Most women believe what makes a quality man is his ability to swoop her off her feet, wine and dine her at the best restaurants around town and give her presents and a very wealthy lifestyle.
Now, I want to share a secret with you that you already know if you’ve been following my blog for a while. Money does not make a Quality Man. How a man treats you and how you feel around a man is far more important.
I have a former client who is very successful professionally, and she found herself madly in love with a man who is a male nurse. They have an amazing relationship and she feels she got the best guy in the world because he makes her feel absolutely loved, cherished and adored. Note those feelings have nothing to do with money or the fact that she out-earns him.
Yet many professional women would have turned their noses up over this man, declaring anyone less than a doctor, lawyer or accountant wouldn’t qualify as a Quality Man in their eyes.
Lots of men are online who are good men and want nothing more than to make you happy. The guy with the belly might make the greatest husband in the world. You just have to give them a chance.
#3. Give Up Your Closed Heart So You Can Have The Relationship You Really Want.
You probably want a quality man in your life so you no longer have to feel so alone anymore. Right? I get this. And intellectually, you can probably even visualize yourself with a man in your life. Yet is your heart really open to allowing a great man to walk into your life?
Because letting someone into your heart again is SCARY. You’ve probably been hurt in the past when it comes to love and it didn’t feel very good, did it? So what do you do? You protect your heart, using excuses like I’m too busy to date or my grandchildren need me or there are no good men to date and the list goes on.
Sometimes we can’t even see how we are sabotaging our love life. I’ve spoken with women who tell me they’ve been on 5 dates and they couldn’t find Mr. Right so they are ready to QUIT. It takes a lot of work to find the right man for you.
If you think he will show up on your first try, you’re kidding yourself. This is why it’s so important to have a coach in place to motivate you when the going gets tough. You want to have every dating tool and skill available to you in your dating tool box so you can keep moving forward.
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