3 Ways Low Self Esteem Can Harm Your Relationship

Relationship expert Aaron Anderson explains how low self-esteem can hurt your relationship—plus 5 simple confidence boosters to use today!


Everyone has faced self-esteem issues at some time or another in their life, but for a lot of people it’s a constant struggle. What many people with low self-esteem realize quickly is that not only does having low confidence hurt your own feelings about yourself, it also hurts your relationship, too.

Below are 3 of the many ways low self-esteem can hurt your relationship. Plus, a few ways to improve your confidence and start falling in love—with yourself!

1. It Keeps Your Partner from Being Able to Fall in Love With You

When you have low self-esteem, you question whether you’re a desirable person and you question whether your partner really loves you or not. As a result, you try to put on a happy face when you’re not really happy and you go and do things that you don’t really want to do. And because your spouse wants to, you go along and pretend that you’re happy. This action doesn’t allow your partner to really love you. They love the person you’re pretending to be. After a while, you’ll get tired of trying to be someone you’re not and they’ll get tired of you being inconsistent in what you like/don’t like and what do/don’t want to do.

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2. It Keeps you From Being Available to Your Partner

When you have low self-esteem, you’re often too wrapped up in your own head to really be available to your partner. Sure, you’re for them for the big things like when they win an award or when they’re going through a rough time at work. But on a more subtle level, a daily level, you’re not really available to them.

3. It Hurts Your Sex Life

Really great sex happens when two whole people make themselves available to each other in a sexual offer of connection, intimacy and passion. But when you have low self-esteem, it’s difficult to really be present in the bedroom. Instead of being in the moment with your partner, you’re wondering what’s going through their head. Because you’re always worried about what they’re thinking, you can’t really be present in the bedroom. Sure, sex will always be fun, but when you’re not really connecting, you’re not really making love.

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Thankfully, your low self-esteem is not something that is out of your control. Click through the slideshow below for 5 simple ways to boost your self-esteem hand-picked from our favorite trusted sources:

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If you find that you need extra help, there are also books like Self-Compassion and Self Affirmations from Stuart Smalley. For help in the bedroom, there’s a great radio show called After Dark Radio by Ande Lyons with tips to “get out of your head and get into bed”.

Now you are armed with the tools to free yourself from self-doubt and enjoy your relationship, and more importantly, yourself!

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